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Postby fatwig » Thu 27 Jan, 2011 2:07 pm

hello. My 3 year old and one year old just fight all the time and I do not know what to do. My toddler ends up hitting the baby and then baby screams and I just seem to end up seperating them all the time. Have you any advice
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Re: Fighting

Postby NgalaOnline » Mon 07 Feb, 2011 1:12 pm

Thanks for your post. This is a very common issue with managing 2 or more children at home.
Your 3yr old has to share your time and attention, and has a 1 yr old who wants to break all their toys. The 1 yr old will want to join in with everything your 3 yr old is doing.
Here are some things to consider:
1. Ensure both children are having day sleeps or a period of quiet time (older children). Also that they have had regular meals/snacks. Children will be more fractious at these times.
2. Let the 3 yr old have a safe place where precious toys can be kept away from the 1 yr old.
3. Have a short period each day where you play on the floor with both children to encourage turn taking and co-operative play.
4. If you see tension building up, try to use distraction to avert a fighting episode.
5. Praise both children if they have short peiods of playing along side each other without hitting/fighting. Catch them being good!!
We often tend to ignore children when they are playing quietly, as we can get on with doing something else. They then get lots of attention for winding each other up.
6. Try and have a time each day for playing outside in the park or a playground to help burn off some energy.

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